Goodbye, Dear Friend

Losing a pet causes real grief—this book provides real understanding, comfort, and support to help you heal.

It’s not odd, crazy or maladjusted to cry and feel utterly lost when a pet dies. Often that pet has been a close friend, uncritical, loyal, and devoted—bringing us countless hours of peaceful companionship and joyful play. There is no need to keep grief hidden or wonder why we can’t immediately “replace” our dead pet. Feelings deserve understanding and respect—not dismissive comments like “it’s just a cat” or “why don’t you get another dog?” that, even if well-meaning, can cause enormous distress to those who are mourning a genuine loss.

Goodbye, Dear Friend acknowledges both the extent and depth of grief of a pet. Based on an avalanche of letters about pet loss the author has received at her advice column, as well as the experiences of historical figures like Sigmund Freud and Sir Walter Scott, the book takes us through the process of grieving, delving into such topics as putting a pet to sleep; taking comfort in memorials; and whether there is a pet heaven. With a list of further resources included, Goodbye, Dear Friend is essential for every pet owner, young or old, and will bring great solace at a time when one can feel most alone.